I’ve just made the third episode of The Genuinely You Show available to view for those who have completed the free sign-up. This episode deals with the subject of beliefs. Its title is “Beliefs – Do Yours Limit Or Empower You?”

I love this topic, because it can be so easy to get stuck in an emotional ‘prison’ by holding beliefs that limit you. It is one of the worst things that you can do to yourself!

I know because I do it to myself too!

I nearly didn’t go ahead with the opportunity to go to Los Angeles and record these TV shows and do lots of other media appearances, because of limiting beliefs that I had about myself. Beliefs that the journey would be too much for me (my back injury still makes the occasional use of a wheelchair necessary) or that I wouldn’t fit in, or that my words would dry up when I was caught in the terrifying gaze of a TV camera!

But these were all limiting beliefs and fears.

Luckily, I have done a lot of work to be able to recognise these popping up and I have techniques to allow myself to move past them.

  • You too can decide to release yourself from the prison of your limiting beliefs? Fancy getting out on parole? I have the key to your freedom.
  • Know how your current beliefs could be condemning you to a life sentence of unhappiness, isolation and fear.
  • Discover the most important pathway to confidence and fulfilment and why those who harness it, live an extraordinary life.
  • Avoid the pitfalls of poor self-worth and lack of confidence and embrace a life full of confidence and purpose.
  • Do you believe you are a failure and worthless, or do you believe you are successful and worthwhile? Either way, you’re right!

Sign up for free to the TV Show here: https://genuinely-you.com/theshow

Get watching and learn how to ensure your beliefs lead you to a life of confidence and fulfilment.

With heart

Gina x

P.S. While you catch up with all the available episodes, did you know that I have an entirely free course called “The 7 Principles”?

All 7 videos are only about half an hour long in total (so only slightly longer than a Genuinely You Show episode), but understanding these 7 Principles is a very easy way to build a solid foundation for some of the strategies and themes I’m going to touch on in the following episodes.

If you’re interested in this free course, you can sign up here: https://genuinely-you.com/7principles

 

I cannot quite believe that I have been able to type that header up there!

But it is true! Earlier this year I was flown over to the real La La Land and spent a frenetic three-weeks filming my TV Show (and fitting in loads of guest-appearances on other shows too!).

Please believe me when I say this; I am the most surprised person of all about that!

Never in my wildest dreams did I think that this was within my reach, or that it is something that I would be doing at the stage of my life and at my age.

Why am I sharing this? I hope that it will encourage you to believe that your dreams, your hopes, your wishes can, if you pursue them with work and effort, be made to happen. I am, just like you, an ‘ordinary’ person. I have the same anxieties and daily challenges as we all do. I consider myself extremely lucky!

Filming the TV Shows was on the back of my latest international best-selling book (“Thriving Not Surviving: The 5 Secret Pathways to Happiness, Success & Fulfilment). I was there to promote the book and also launch the “Thriving Together Tribe” initiative.

The biggest thing that struck me about being in L.A. and being immersed in the media-world so suddenly – besides the novelty of having my hair and make-up done every day by professionals! – was how normal and actually mundane that whole world is. It is, after all, just a business like any other. The glamour is ‘just’ part of what they need to do to package up the product. It is approached with the same level of pragmatism and ‘get-it-done’ attitude as any other business or industry. I could see very clearly how, if I lived in that world, I would begin to consider it all just “business as usual”. And that is interesting, because when I flew out there, I was beside myself with nerves and fear of whether I could fit in, whether I would cope. It all seemed so alien and glamorous and beyond me!

But it turns out, it wasn’t beyond me! Although it was enjoyably glamorous for the short amount of time that I spent there.

So, what aspects of your life or your dreams seem utterly beyond you? May I suggest that if you look again at whatever this is for you in your life, you might just find that it is entirely and very successfully within your power to achieve it!

By the way, you can judge for yourself how well I did at the TV presenting by watching my TV Show. To sign up to see all the episodes – all for free, no catches, go to this page of my Genuinely You website:

https://genuinely-you.com/theshow

I would love to know what you think of my “La La Land” adventure

Gina x

Many managers rely on serendipity to create effective teams. At times this creates excellent teams who in turn produce amazing results. Fantastic teams which jell, think creatively together and become a force to be reckoned with. They often seem to grow out of nowhere. Managers enjoy the benefits without understanding how they could create the conditions to ensure great team working in all situations.

Relying on chance means that for the most part managers fail to maximize the potential resource a great team can offer. Choosing the right team building activities can make a substantial difference to how effectively your people work together.

1)     Make time for team building rather than project development. Spending even a relatively short period of time on team BUILDING activities enhances understanding of the strength of working as a team. It offers a fantastic opportunity to deepen a sense of belonging to the organisation and to communicate the strategic vision within the team.

2)     Good team behaviour should be modelled by all managers and expected from all team members.

3)     Team building activities should ensure that members of the team have the opportunity to share their views and feelings in a safe environment where their opinion is valued and mutual respect is encouraged.

4)     Team building activities which encourage the team to take responsibility for finding their own solutions encourage true ownership and cement relationships.

5)     The strongest teams know individually their strengths and weaknesses and those of their colleagues. They work actively to make the most of the strengths of the team and ensure that weaknesses are addressed. Team building activities should inform this process. The central principle is that the collective team is so much stronger than that of the individuals.

6)     Use team building activities to identify a collective language understood by everyone. This maximizes effective communication and minimizes misunderstanding. “What do we mean by high expectations?” “What does excellent mean in —- context?” “How will we know when we have succeeded?” can elicit great discussion and generate a shared understanding.

7)     Team building activities should have a clear purpose, the team should value them and see them as a productive use of time. A great starting point could be “What do you really enjoy about your job and why? “What if anything gets in the way? “ What can we do as a team to make things even better?

8)     Challenging issues can be tackled through team building activities but it is important not to score points, make someone feel isolated or picked on.

9)     Team Building activities can be really enjoyable too. The learning should be powerful and fun too.

Your team represents a valuable resource, are you making the most of yours? Surely it is worth the investment of some time and carefully thought out team building activities to ensure you nurture, and develop the full potential of your staff.

Any business owner must have asked themselves that question countless times and it has never been more pertinent than now.

I read some research earlier this week which focused the top ten worries for business owners. They included some pretty weighty issues, survival being top of the list.  Does worrying about survival actually make things worse?

What we focus on impacts hugely on the way we think and operate. It governs the questions we ask and impacts hugely on our motivation and energy levels. At times of challenge it is all too easy to focus heavily on worrying about survival and fear of failure. The problem is this leaves people feeling fearful and disempowered and this impedes the quality of our thinking.  The quality of our thinking has an enormous effect on our performance in every area of our lives. You only have to watch sportsmen and women who do brilliantly in training and in friendly matched but fall apart when it really counts.

So what does that mean for you as a business owner?

You have the choice between focusing on failing, letting your mind dwell on all the implications and there are a lot of implications or you can choose a different way.

Focus on success as the only option and you start to ask a completely different set of questions.

  • What is it I need to do to ensure my business is a success?
  •  How do I define success?

I am amazed at how few people know what success is for them. They plan forward rather than identifying their destination and then plan how to get there. They become easily distracted and spend a great deal of time fire fighting. Yet very few of you would just get the car out of the garage and drive without some idea of where you were going.

Once you know where you are aiming for it is so much easier to plan the journey step by step. Planning needs to be structured rather than rigid; strategic planning is vital to ensure that you maximise the use of your time, energy, finances and make the best use of the resources at your disposal, (working with a coach can really help here.) Breaking things down into bite size pieces avoids being overwhelmed after all you wouldn’t attempt to eat a cow in one sitting but it is enjoyable meal by meal.

  • For starters am I really clear who my customer or client is?

Many clients I talk to are rather foggy about who their core customer is. Marketing then becomes much more challenging. Clients are afraid that by narrowing the customer/client group down too much they will loose potential custom.

In reality the opposite is true. As you can then start to profile your customer base, where they can be found, how reach them, what services or product they would spend money on  Others will find you too through recommendation but if you stretch yourself too thin when marketing you end up achieving nothing but wasted time, energy and money.

  • What is it that my business can do which really adds value and makes me stand out from the crowd?

Today’s customers are spoilt for choice. Competing on price may be difficult so what else do you offer as added value. Is it the quality of service or product, your expertise, that you offer something unique, creative, quality of relationships or that you go the extra mile. Do your market research.

Ask your customers what they want and how you might make things even better? Not only are you able to target your efforts and buying more effectively but it makes them feel more valued, particularly when you listen to what they have to say.

  • How can we ensure that our customers and clients come back again and again?

Ensuring that you deliver what you promise is absolutely vital, as is communication and putting things right when something goes wrong.

Relationships with customers are important if you want repeat business and if you want them to tell everyone else how wonderful you are.

It is here that training your staff to understand that EVERY interaction with a customer or client by phone, letter, email or face to face advertises your business and that they have a vested interest in making your business successful as it provides job security. It also helps develop a sense of pride not only do they enjoy work more but they become effective ambassadors. I have found this to be true what ever the business.

Creating rapport and effective communication are fundamental to good relationships and to healthy sales figures. Many organisations underestimate the value that training all staff in these skills can bring to their balance sheet.

You know the old saying “A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush” yet so often businesses devote all their energy into finding new customers. They fail to see the benefits in staying in contact with those who have bought already.

Taking the time to create a data base of customers so you can keep in contact is incredibly useful. Keep your business within customer’s consciousness so they naturally think of you when they need something. Follow contacts up not once but several times.

Instead of fearing failure focus on success and see failure as an opportunity to learn, what specifically needs to change to make things better. Sometimes it is just a numbers game; a sales person who gets one sale from every ten calls will get more sales simply from making more calls. Analysing what makes the difference in those successful calls so you can replicate it has the potential to boost sales enormously.

The difference between successful business people and those who fail that whilst they feel fear they do not dwell on it. They recognise that difficult times bring great opportunities. Their entire focus and energy is on, what they need to do to ensure their business is a success. Is yours?

Every choice we make has consequences. When work takes over, it has significant consequences across the whole of your life.

For some a fast, high-end sports car symbolises “living the dream” – what’s yours?

Some consequences will be positive and others negative. It is the balance between the activity and what it costs you which determines whether you should continue with it.

The trouble is we so rarely take the time to take stock of what we are doing and the impact it has on ourselves and those around us. We are often too busy so we do things on automatic pilot and life carries on until there is a crisis which forces us to recognise that something needs to change dramatically.

On May 31st 2009 I received a phone call from my sister telling me that my 49 your old brother had dropped dead whilst doing a final training session for the London to Brighton Cycle race. The paradox was his chosen charity was The British Heart Foundation.

The post-mortem revealed a congenital heart condition which had it been found was entirely treatable. It is the most common cause of sudden death in seemingly fit and active adults in the UK.

We were devastated by his death. However there has been a significant gift in amongst the sense of loss. It has given the whole family the opportunity to consider what is really important in life.

Why wait for the crisis. Wouldn’t it be worth taking a little time to consider if you are living the life you really want, whether life could be better for us physically, emotionally and spiritually for you and your loved ones.

To do this you need to allow yourself a little time to step back and to take stock.

You may find it helpful to do this exercise: Pause this recording and grab some paper and a pen before moving on with the podcast or you can find a printed copy of this on the website

Take a blank piece of paper and create two vertical columns.

In the left hand column consider the things which cause you stress, anxiety or a sense of disappointment.

In the left hand column create a list of everything you feel is positive in your life.

Think about each are in turn. My questions are there to get you thinking. Don’t feel restricted by them but please be honest with yourself.

Don’t agonise about the question – go with your first gut reaction.

Health

o  Think about your health-are you fit and healthy?

o  Are you at an ideal weight?

o  Do you eat a healthy diet or are there too many unhealthy lunches with clients?

o  Do you comfort eat when things get difficult?

o  Do you drink alcohol?– we often say in moderation, but define your moderation.

  • Do you drink alcohol every day?
  • Do you drink to wind down and distress?
  • Do you take any recreational drugs or prescribed medication to manage your stress levels?
  • Do you suffer from high blood pressure or anxiety?
  • Do you make time for exercise on a regular basis?
  • How do you feel about body image?

Love and Relationships

What about your intimate relationship?

If you have one –

  • Does work get in the way of your existing relationship –
  • Never/occasionally/all the time
  • Are you late home often?
  • Do you cancel things because of work?
  • Are you preoccupied with work when you should be spending quality time with your partner?
  • How do you express affection to your partner? How often?
  • Could your life together be better/more passionate/more fulfilling if you had more time and energy to focus on it?

If you are not in a relationship –

  • Would you like to be?
  • Do you feel more confident socially than at work or is it the other way around?
  • Do you make time regularly to do something about it?
  • Do you use work as an excuse not to get on with finding your soul mate?

If you are a you a parent –?

  • How much time do you actively spend with your children?
  • Do you see them before they go to bed during the week?
  • Do you enjoy playing with them or are you too tired or feel awkward trying to talk to or play with them?
  • When was the last time you heard them read or they saw you reading for pleasure?
  • Would you rate your relationship with them as?  brilliant/good/ok/variable/difficult/non-existent
  • Do you feel guilty about your relationship with them?
  • What is the legacy you would like to leave them with?

Money

  • What is you financial status? Financially free / financially secure/ Just coping / in debt
  •  Do you spend more than you have coming in: Never / occasionally / regularly
  • What relationship do you have with money – is it a healthy one?

Self- worth

  • How do you feel about yourself?
  • Do you treat yourself the same as you treat others?
  • Are you harder on yourself than you are on others or do you make excuses for yourself?
  • Do you take responsibility for your emotional well-being?
  • Which are the 5 emotions you feel most commonly? Are they positive or negative?

Fulfillment

  • Do you love your life?
  • Do you feel as if you are on a tread mill?
  • Do you feel driven to succeed?
  • Are you fulfilled?
  • What are you really passionate about?
  • What would make you leap out of bed in the morning looking forward with great energy and enthusiasm?

Think your life and begin to count the real cost of living your life as you do.

Now think about the quality of life you would like to live.

Close your eyes and dream of your perfect life.

  • What does it look like?
  • How does it feel?
  • Does it sound different to your current life?

How does it differ to what you have now?

What is getting in the way? The likelihood is it is you.

If you want a different quality of life the solution is in your hands.

Whatever the economic situation, however limited you believe your choices are are, doing nothing will change nothing.

Even small changes done consistently can make an enormous difference to your life. Working with a coach can help enormously too.

If you learnt tomorrow that you only had 3 months to live, how would you choose to spend those ninety days? 

What is really important to you? What would you want to do?

What would you want to say to loves ones or do with them or for them?

The great news is that you have the chance to savour the rest of your life with out the death sentence.

Life is so precious, why not live every day fully, savouring the things that you truly value.

Think about the epitaph you would choose to represent your life.

Create a living epitaph and work towards creating the life which would make that epitaph true.

Find out more about my work and how I might be able to help you at:

https://genuinely-you.com

What Motivates You In Life?What Motivates You

Motivation to live life to the full – where do you find yours? Do you even know what your motivation is? This blog explores the key motivators in life, so you can understand yourself better, and make informed choices to create the life you truly aspire to.

There are many different theories about what motivates us. In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) terms, the universal drivers are pain and pleasure.

  • Some people will be motivated by pleasure – they will be drawn towards things that give them a sense of pleasure and satisfaction.
  • Others will be driven by avoiding pain. Decisions will lead them away from those things which distress and hurt them emotionally.

Of course there are times when everyone will identify decisions based on both but without exception we will favour one over another. It is important to realise that it is not about one being better or worse, they are just different.

There are then a variety of other things that drive and motivate us to be who we are. Choices are made often at an entirely subconscious level, which has a significant impact on lifestyle.

Let’s look at the theory supported by Anthony Robbins…

He describes six different human needs. According to his theory everyone will have two dominant needs and will need all of the first four to some extent.

CERTAINTY

The need for certainty is powerful. People who favour this need often show great determination, courage and resolve. They need to know that things will be certain, that they have some sense of control even if it means putting up with things which are less than perfect.

UNCERTAINTY or VARIETY

Those who are driven by uncertainty crave adventure and variety. They love change and will often change things that are working well simply to get the buzz it creates. They are curious and often playful and adventurous. You will find explorers and extreme sports people at its most extreme edge.

SIGNIFICANCE

For people who are driven to succeed, attainment and success will be high on their list of personal values. They get a sense of self by doing things for others and being needed. They will push the boundaries to make a difference and to be seen as the one who has made a difference.

CONNECTION

Love is the most powerful in the range, and the thing which most people long for deep down. Connection of friends, family, work colleagues, acquaintances are all important to those who are driven for connection.

The last two needs may be present but not always. These are:

GROWTH

There are many who wish to grow and develop personally or constantly work on the growth of others. Learning intellectually, physically, emotionally and/or spiritually is all part of growth.

CONTRIBUTION

This can be contribution to one’s own development or that of others. It can be at the level of wanting to surprise or spoil the family or that of making an ongoing significant contribution to others through personal contact or charitable works to raise money to help others.

Recap: Everyone favours two out of the first four.

 

Case Study: What specifically do workaholics favour? 

Interestingly of those I have worked with, workaholics commonly favour certainty and significance. When I speak to clients they will often use phrases such as “I must succeed, failure is not an option” “I like to be in control”.

When you talk further to them about the life they would aspire to they will identify love as being most important to them. Of course some of them have created loving, stable relationships, yet many others dream of being in such a relationship but have failed to either create or sustain one.

 

Why?

I discovered that workaholics tend to spend a significant amount of energy on underpinning certainty and significance in their lives. This has left little time and energy to find and sustain true love. Moreover I found that they have concentrated on the area of their lives where they feel most comfortable and that is around achievement and success.

Unpick things even more and I often find that there is a profound belief that they are either unworthy or unable to be loved. They are driven to succeed so that they feel better about themselves and more worthy of being loved by others.

The same people often have great connection with others on a large scale, lots of friends and positive relationships with work colleagues. This means that the pain caused by the potential loss of the love of someone special is to some extent softened. As a result they live their lives dreaming of love but they are not quite uncomfortable enough because of the high levels of connection in the workplace to make a radical change.

In the end work takes on a disproportionate significance; there is no time or energy left to look for and to support a loving, passionate relationship. They have become a workaholic.

Consider your own needs… What drives you?

If you answer yes to these then you look for certainty:

Are you someone who likes to know what is what, you like to have routine and feel in control, and to know how things stand. Do you put up with things that are negative rather than rock the boat? Do you crave comfort and wish to avoid pain?

Maybe uncertainty is your crutch:

Are you an adrenalin junkie, do you run from commitment, or end relationships which appear to be getting too intense? Do you love new things but quickly lose interest once you have mastered the skills?

Is significance a need for you?

Do you want to be noticed? Do you feel the need to succeed to make up for a perceived failure in early life (failed 11+ or a school exam for example)? Do you feel at your best when you are doing things for others?

What do you really want out of connection?

Do you want to be loved? Are your relationships in life offering love or connection or both? How important are they to you?

If you have a perfect life, the things that drive you are obviously working well for you. If you feel a yearning for something different it is possible that the basic needs that drive you are not working at the optimum level for you.

To help find the right motivators in your life to meet with your goals of happiness, you can get in touch with me for 1-2-1 coaching or to join a group workshop.

 

What Motivates You In Life?

Motivation to live life to the full; where do you find yours?

There are many different theories about what motivates us. In NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) terms, the universal drivers are pain and pleasure.

  • Some people will be motivated by pleasure – they will be drawn towards things that give them a sense of pleasure and satisfaction.
  • Others will be driven by avoiding pain. Decisions will lead them away from those things which distress and hurt them emotionally.

Of course there are times when everyone will identify decisions based on both but without exception we will favour one over another. It is important to realise that it is not about one being better or worse, they are just different.

There are then a variety of other things that drive and motivate us to be who we are. Most of us make daily choices at an entirely unconscious level. 95% of our behaviours happen without any conscious thought at all they become habitual. These patterns of behavior have a significant impact on the quality of our lives.

Let’s look at the theory supported by Anthony Robbins…

He describes us as having six different human needs. According to his theory everyone needs all of the first four but that we will have two dominant needs. It is the way in which we satisfy these needs which makes the difference. They are deep wired into our persona so will have them satisfied come what may. We can achieve them in a positive, neutral or negative way. Understanding what makes us and others tick gives us the choice to achieve the need in the most constructive way possible.

CERTAINTY

We all have a need for certainty. It is at the core of our need to survive. We get certainty from or relationships, the job we do, hobbies, religion, food, drink, drugs, holidays, routines etc.

The need for certainty is powerful. The level at which we need to have a sense of control over our lives will determine all the choices we make. It demines how comfortable we are with change.

It is why some people will put up with abusive relationships. They fear change more than the status quo.

UNCERTAINTY or VARIETY

We achieve uncertainty or variety from the very things which give us certainty, relationships, the job we do, hobbies, religion, food, drink, drugs, holidays, routines etc.

The paradox is we need both, we all need variety or uncertainty otherwise we would be living “groundhog day”

It is the relationship between our need for certainty and uncertainty and the way we choose to achieve it which shapes much of our lives.

If you look at the types of holidays people enjoy it gives a good indication of their needs. If they always choose to go to the same place, like to repeat doing the same things with the same people the need for certainty will be high.

Those who are driven by uncertainty are likely to choose to go to different places looking for adventure and variety

SIGNIFICANCE

Significance is not about ego. It is about how we feel valued. We gain that sense of value in a wide variety of ways, through or job, our skills – sporting, musical, technical, through the clothes we wear, our possessions – car, house, jewelry etc.

One person may gain a sense of significance from only wearing designer labels whilst another from only buying from a thrift or charity chop.

Some get their significance from doing things for others where another may get it from being a victim, a bully or always being ill.

The challenge is finding a way to satisfying our need or the need of others for significance in a wholly positive way.

LOVE and CONNECTION

 

In this context love means the intimate, passionate love between two people. We have connection with family, friends, neighbours, colleagues, clients, pets etc. People will often settle for connection as it feels safe. They do not have to open up and be vulnerable in these relationships as they would do to achieve true love.

Most people wish for love deep down although many settle for connection or significance instead as it feels safe.

We all need all some level of certainty, uncertainty, significance and love and connection. The relationship between each and the way we achieve it is the underlying structure which shapes our lives, our relationships and the way we behave.

The following two needs are incredibly important to some and of no relevance to others:

GROWTH OR LEARNING

There are many who wish to grow and develop personally or constantly work on the growth of others. Learning intellectually, physically, emotionally and/or spiritually is all part of growth.

CONTRIBUTION

This can be contribution to one’s own development or that of others. It can be at the level of wanting to surprise or spoil the family or that of making an ongoing significant contribution to others through personal contact or charitable works to raise money to help others.

Think about you? 

What governs your thoughts and choices?

How about your partner, your children, your boss or your colleagues? Understanding what drives and motivates is the key to getting the best out of yourself and other!

So let’s look at an example

As I work with a large variety of people it is easy to spot the patterns. By using an example I hope it will help you to see these patterns in action.

The most common pattern I have noticed in those who present as workaholics commonly is that they favour certainty and significance. They will often use phrases such as “I must succeed, failure is not an option” or “I like to be in control”.

When you talk them about the life they would aspire to they have all identified love as being most important to them. Of course some of them have created loving, stable relationships, yet many others dream of being in such a relationship but have failed to either create or more often to sustain one.

Why?

I discovered that workaholics tend to spend a significant amount of energy on underpinning certainty and significance in their lives. This has left little time and energy to find and sustain true love. Moreover I found that they have concentrated on the area of their lives where they feel most comfortable and that is around achievement and success.

When we have looked at the underlying cause I often find that there is a profound belief that they are either unworthy or unable to be loved. They are driven to succeed so that they feel better about themselves and more worthy of being loved by others. The reality is that no matter how well they have succeed they constantly move the goal posts as nothing they achieve makes them feel better about themselves.

The same people often have great connection with others on a large scale, lots of friends and positive relationships with work colleagues. This means that the pain caused by the potential loss of the love of someone special is to some extent softened. As a result they live their lives dreaming of love but they are not quite uncomfortable enough because of the high levels of connection in the workplace to make a radical change.

At work they feel valued, successful and in control, they have lots of connection which in turn makes them feel safe.

In their personal life they feel unworthy, unlovable a failure.

So its no surprise that they choose to spend their time where they feel good about themselves. In the end work takes on a disproportionate significance; there is no time or energy left to look for and to support a loving, passionate relationship. They have become a workaholic.

Consider your own needs… What drives you?

If you answer yes to these then you look for certainty:

Are you someone who likes to know what is what, you like to have routine and feel in control, and to know how things stand. Do you put up with things that are negative rather than rock the boat? Do you crave comfort and wish to avoid pain?

Maybe uncertainty is your crutch:

Are you an adrenalin junkie, do you run from commitment, or end relationships which appear to be getting too intense? Do you love new things but quickly lose interest once you have mastered the skills?

Is significance a need for you?

Do you want to be noticed? Do you feel the need to succeed to make up for a perceived failure in early life (failed 11+ or a school exam for example)? Do you feel at your best when you are doing things for others?

What do you really want out of connection?

Do you want to be loved? Are your relationships in life offering love or connection or both? How important are they to you?

If you have a perfect life, the things that drive you are obviously working well for you. If you feel a yearning for something different it is possible that the basic needs that drive you are not working at the optimum level for you.

To help find the right motivators in your life to meet with your goals of happiness, you can get in touch with me for 1-2-1 coaching or to join a group workshop.