Do you feel as if you play second fiddle to their work? Is it left to you to make excuses to the children, to family and friends because they are late or too busy to attend? Do you send the evenings on your own – even when they are in the house? Is your partner too busy or too tired to pay you the attention you need and deserve? Is your life being affected because of the demands of your partner’s work? Do you feel your own sense of self and your confidence are being eroded because they pay more attention to their work? Are you feeling lonely and left out even though you are in a relationship?
The loss of someone you love is always very difficult but out of bereavement comes a golden opportunity to examine your priorities and to re-evaluate the way things are done.
I do hope that 2019 has got off to a flying start! Are you one of those who decided not to make any New Years Resolutions so you didn’t have the pressure of failing to keep them? Did you decide over Christmas that 2019 was going to be the year when you created a great work – life balance? What have you done to change things? Is it working?
Research into workaholics who have achieved a "Work-Life Balance" found that many only achieved true fulfilment and balance after a crisis had made them completely rethink their priorities. Health scares were high on the list. Damaged relationships were common too.
Are You Facing Retirement? or Have you recently retired and found the transition difficult? Does the thought of retirement fill you with excitement and anticipation? or Do you dread the thought of giving up your job?
Workaholism is no different to the other “….holisms” in that the problem can be very difficult for partners and families to deal with.
The power of anticipation is amazing. It is a skill you can learn and if employed on a regular basis it enables you to maximise the resources at your disposal and helps you to manage your time effectively. It changes your mode of operation from one of fire fighting to one which allows time for strategic planning. The strategies work in every walk of life.
Creating lasting change is something many of us find difficult. If it was so easy none of us would need to lose weight, or keep smoking despite wanting to give it up, or continue to have disastrous relationships, or work too hard, or continue to make New Year’s resolutions which they fail to keep.
Consider why you have developed your particular work habits and your response to stress. There are as many reasons as there are people. For many people there are a number of complicated reasons which stack one on another.
How many of you feel as if you are banging your head against a brick wall when you try to tackle your partners excessive work habits? That what ever you say, it seems to make no positive difference, in fact it actually appears to make things worse?